Life learning

  Having  the sheep mentality  — afraid of not fitting in and never thinking for yourself. You escape into drugs, alcohol, Netflix to  avoid your unproductivity. You consume a lot of self-help and are  afraid of taking imperfect  action. You  don’t have a priority goal  — whether it be health, wealth, relationship. You  live in a loop  — the same experiences in relationships, habits, career, etc. You are  fretting over your past mistakes  and mistaking them as future. You  let the day run you  without having any agenda. You try to  please everyone you meet  to feel good about yourself. You are  waiting for the right time  — to change jobs, ask someone out, etc.

  A lot is mental.  Meaning we all create our reality whether we’d like to or not. All the decisions we make stick and lead us down a certain path. It’s true when they say 99% of your life is going to be about how you react to it. It’s important to  stay kind , forgiving and respectful. These are qualities one needs to maintain and cultivate. Self-sabotage is as bad as being toxic.  Respect yourself . Learn to be yourself at all times. Try to build upward spirals every day.  Meaning try to be good and do good every day. This will create little spirals of goodness which end up gifting us beautiful lives. What matters most is inner peace.  Inner peace is joy and can be found within us at all times. Stay simple and realistic  but don’t lose your drive to want to be a better version of yourself. Acceptance is hard but is what one ought to do. Not all people are going to have your best interests at heart and that is okay.  Learn to co-exist  with ...

  Looks matter.  People who look good have an unfair advantage over the others. Nobody will ever love you more than your parents . If you don't take a stand for yourself , people will walk all over you. Find a strong support network.  Good contacts are very important in tough times. Be a good person and  don't expect anything from anyone.  Expectations will cause you nothing but disappointments. Work hard but if you  don't work smartly, you'll end up working for the rest of your life. Never get upset if someone leaves you.  You can never control the other, the only person you can control is yourself. Never stop being a good person  because of your bad experiences with others. Take care of your health.  Health is like money, we only learn it's value after losing it. People can change anytime,  so never stay dependent on anyone.

  1. After loving my parents, my siblings, my spouse, my children and my friends, I have now started loving myself. 2. I have realized that I am not “Atlas”. The world does not rest on my shoulders. 3. I have stopped bargaining with vegetable & fruit vendors. A few pennies more is not going to break me, but it might help the poor fellow save for his daughter’s school fees. 4. I leave my waitress a big tip. The extra money might bring a smile to her face. She is toiling much harder for a living than I am. 5. I stopped telling the elderly that they've already told that story many times. The story makes them walk down memory lane & relive their past. 6. I have learned not to correct people even when I know they are wrong. The onus of making everyone perfect is not on me. Peace is more precious than perfection. 7. I give compliments freely & generously. Compliments are a mood enhancer not only for the recipient, but also for me. And a small tip for the recipient of a compli...